At our historic wedding venue, we know that brides aren’t the only ones that can have moments where they are not themselves and make life miserable for everyone during wedding planning. Here are three scenarios that might come up during this process and how to handle them.
The Dress Debacle
Finding a dress that will work well on all the girls in your bridal party might be harder than finding your own dress. Sometimes this can be made harder when a friend decides that they don’t like the color or cut you chose for the dress and complain that the dress is not their ‘style’. Listen to your friend and ask if there’s anything that would help. If nothing can be done then put your foot down and simply state that this is the dress you’ve chosen and you’d like them to be a part of your day by wearing it. If they still refuse then it might be easier to just not have them in the bridal party rather than aggravate the issue further.
The Frugal Fiend
You’d think when signing up to be a bridesmaid there’s an unspoken understanding that there will be added cost involved in the privilege. But that’s not always the case. Avoid this situation all together by providing an upfront budget of what expenditures you think your friend will have as your bridesmaid and let her know there are no hard feelings if she decides to opt out. This will save you the trouble of having to deal with the complaining about how expensive the dress is or how they can’t afford to travel to your bachelorette.
Though hopefully rare, from time to time you may have a friend who bullies the rest of the bridal party when things don’t go there way. This tends to occur when trying to plan bridal showers, bachelorette parties or agreeing on gifts and activities. If you find out that this is happening, pull your friend aside and let them know that this is not acceptable and that this is not about them. If you can’t reason with them it might be best to cut them from the bridal party for peace of mind for yourself and the rest of your squad.